Homilies, Talks and other great messages


This bag is intended to be given to someone whom you may encounter on a street corner or in front of a store asking for some help. It contains items that can be used, but won’t add to the garbage frequently seen in homeless camps. Make it small, easy for you to keep in your car or handbag and easy for them to use or keep in their bag. For someone wanting to help themselves out of homelessness, the resource list is the most valuable item in the bag. The bag consists of: a paper, recyclable sandwich bag (not a zip-lock plastic bag), one pair of clean socks (used is OK), one item for personal hygiene (sani-wipe, hand cleanser, toothbrush/toothpaste, feminine hygiene), one food item (multigrain bar, protein bar, box of raisins, beef stick, dried fruit), and resource list. Here’s a photo:

















  • Calvary Chapel Food Closet 6575 Commercial Way, Diamond Springs Food Distribution 2nd & 4th Wed. 10:00

  • Rolling Hills Church 800 White Rock Rd. , El Dorado Hills. Food Distribution 2nd & 4th Tues. 10:00

  • Mother Teresa Maternity Home Placerville 530-295-8006

  • Veteran’s Affairs 130 Placerville Dr., Placerville 530-621-5892 H.A.R.T. of Folsom: 916-542-0615 or - info@hartoffolsom.org Powerhouse Ministries: 916-983-0658

  • Twin Lakes Food Bank 327 Montrose Dr., Folsom Open: T, W, Th 9:00-12:30.

  • St. Vincent DePaul 225 Marchant Dr., Folsom Open M, W, F 8:30 – 11:30.

  • Sacramento Self-help Housing in Folsom: (916) 916-215-3420 Jefflyne Fitts jfitts@sacselfhelp.org


“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life” (John 3:16)

“Lazarus and the Rich Man”
Deacon Dan’s homily for Sunday, September 29, 2019

Today’s Gospel, the story of Lazarus and the rich man can be told in the narrative of social justice, caring for our fellow human beings. There’s no criticism in approaching it this way. But the Church cannot be divided amongst its three parts; evangelization, liturgy, and love of our neighbor.  So, today’s story cannot be merely focused on caring for the poor.  

Jesus Christ is Priest, Prophet, and King. His Church acts in His name as Priest, bringing the Liturgy, the sacraments and prayer to the world; Prophet, performing its teaching and evangelizing mission in His name and King; bringing justice, social justice on behalf of all people through the myriad of Catholic social works organizations, including: St. Vincent DePaul, Catholic Charities, the Knights of Columbus, our Parish Human Concerns Ministry, Community Servants and the Nomadic Shelter.  

These three parts of Christ’s Church, Liturgy, evangelization and social justice cannot be separated.  They are linked to one another and makeup what the Church does in the world.  


When we are celebrating the Eucharist, as we are this morning, we find at its summit the outpouring of love from the sacrifice of Jesus on the Cross; re-presented for each of us in His Body and Blood for us, the poor, the hungry who thirst for Him who brings us life.  

When we evangelize, we bring the Good News of Jesus Christ to our community, to those who are poor because they are without the very thing that will make them happy; the lasting joy of union with the Father.  

And, when we turn full face to the poor, we should encounter Jesus Christ in that person, and in seeing Jesus in that needy person, returns us to the Eucharist.  

So, using that as the backdrop to the story of Lazarus and the rich man, there are a couple of things that stick out in the story. First, I’ve been hearing this parable for as long as I can remember, even as a child, hearing this story told by Sister Mary Lawrence over at St.Mel, it bothered me; wondering if I would one day be asking for someone I ignored to just dip their finger into some cool water to quench my thirst.  And, ever since, it has bothered me.  Does it kind get to you, as well; make you squirm in the pew just a little bit? The description of how things turn out with Lazarus and the rich man makes me feel uncomfortable, makes me wonder if I am in any sense, in any degree, the rich man.   

It seems pretty clear, that’s the objective Jesus had in mind. The story should make us uncomfortable.  It should prompt us to question how we look at the poor…and I intend to mean the poor in any manner, in our society; not just financially poor, but lacking or suffering in any other ways, as well.  

The second thing about this story is we know the name of Lazarus, the poor man, but aren’t told the name of the rich man. Could this be because Jesus is once again turning things upside down?  Because, even today we know who the rich people are, but the poor, the homeless, the guy holding the sign on the onramp to Hwy 50 are nameless, if we avoid eye contact, they become faceless, if we stereotype them, they just become part of a societal problem, not really even human beings.  

But, here Jesus knows the poor by name. It's hard to be indifferent to someone we know by name.  

Jesus may also have something else in mind.  That is the rich man is nameless in His parable so we can insert our name as his.  The story now becomes the parable of Lazarus and Deacon Dan.  

So how does our Lord’s parable reach into our lives, today? Well, this past week I received an e-mail on the HART (Homeless Assistance Resource Team) from a woman who lives in our area looking for some direction on what to do when she sees “Lazarus” on the streets. She wrote in because of a social media post that caused her to question her own thoughts of seeing homeless panhandling and how she responds.

She begins:
Hi- There was a recent post on our local social media website and this has been brought up a few times and the comments made are very sickening to me. 
The post she refers to identifies the use of law enforcement as the only option. And, does lump most everyone on the streets as criminals and career beggars looking for money to satisfy their addictions.  Our sheriff deputies, parks rangers, and local police have very limited tools to use for the problem of homelessness. 

She continues, I am "one of those people" who give food and money to those I see on the streets. I am often ridiculed for this because the response I get is that these are people who are addicts and alcoholics who just want money for their next fix.  As a Christ-follower, I am never thinking of this, only that someone may be in need and I am not the person to judge.   I often see blanket statements about career beggars to support alcoholism and so forth.  Can you shed some light on this statement specific to our area, Folsom & El Dorado Hills and where would I find true Fact based information to say whether or not that "many" of the career beggars are scammers etc. as what it also implied on this particular thread.  I'm also open to the possibility I may be in the "wrong" and I am the person contributing to the problem...Although I do what my heart calls upon...Thank you!  
My response:
Hello and thank you for your note. My name is Dan Haverty. I am a past Board member of HART and received your message. I’ll try to offer you some of my thoughts on homelessness in El Dorado Hills and Folsom, as well as our Christian reality in a world that does not agree with the teachings of Jesus Christ.

I’ve found that persons who are without shelter cannot be all swept into one or two stereotypes.  They are not all “professional beggars”, neither are they all “just down on their luck.”   They are individuals, each with a different background, story, and path to where they are and where they are going. Because of this, there isn’t one “really good” solution.  

I am convinced that in most cases giving someone on a street corner or in front of a store a dollar or two does not help that individual or the larger problem. I am equally convinced that doesn’t mean we do nothing; at that moment of encounter or when we get home and reflect on our day.  
As followers of Jesus we are invited to recognize Him in everyone and everything. We are called to Love God with all our heart, mind and spirit; and to love our neighbor as ourselves. We also know that Christians will be persecuted for their love, as it appears you have been.  

So, how do we respond? Like most things in life, be prepared. If you feel compelled to give something at the street corner pack up a few “care bags” for your car in a small lunch bag containing a pair of socks, a sani-wipe, a protein bar and a resource list. These items are useful for someone on the street.  If you’d like, insert a prayer card or other hope-filled message. Or, give them a referral card to HART and other resources for those without shelter. Or, just look them in the eye, smile and wish them a good day.  Just don’t ignore them.    

I’d be happy to speak with you further, if you’d find it helpful.

So, this morning I have for you a small bag containing the contents I just mentioned.  This isn’t a Parish effort, there’s no cost. These are just from my wife, Terri, and me and our sock drawers, to you, to look someone in the eye and offer some help.  

There are 80 of these bags available for you to take one, two, or more to place in your car to have , so when you are given the opportunity to help someone on the street, you have something helpful.   

If serving the poor is a way of life for you today…THANK YOU.  

If you’ve wanted to help in some way, but haven’t known how to begin, take a bag and give it to someone needing it.  

If you’d like to help, here at the Parish, buy some tickets to the Nomadic Shelter dinner available in the Narthex.  

Or, sign up to bring part of a meal to the Nomadic Shelter which will begin on November 4th and continue into March.

Our Parish does a great deal to help the less fortunate here, locally, as well as in Kenya, Haiti and Ethiopia.  If you’re not involved in any of these ministries yet, may I suggest reading today’s Gospel when you get back home and be open to receiving the direction our Lord has in mind for you.

Twenty-sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time

R. Alleluia, alleluia.
Though our Lord Jesus Christ was rich, he became poor,
so that by his poverty you might become rich.
R. Alleluia, alleluia.

Gospel LK 16:19-31
Jesus said to the Pharisees:
"There was a rich man who dressed in purple garments and fine linen
and dined sumptuously each day.
And lying at his door was a poor man named Lazarus, covered with sores,
who would gladly have eaten his fill of the scraps
that fell from the rich man's table.
Dogs even used to come and lick his sores.
When the poor man died,
he was carried away by angels to the bosom of Abraham. 
The rich man also died and was buried,
and from the netherworld, where he was in torment,
he raised his eyes and saw Abraham far off
and Lazarus at his side.
And he cried out, 'Father Abraham, have pity on me. 
Send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue,
for I am suffering torment in these flames.'
Abraham replied,
'My child, remember that you received
what was good during your lifetime 
while Lazarus likewise received what was bad;
but now he is comforted here, whereas you are tormented.
Moreover, between us and you a great chasm is established
to prevent anyone from crossing who might wish to go
from our side to yours or from your side to ours.'
He said, 'Then I beg you, father,
send him to my father's house, for I have five brothers,
so that he may warn them,
lest they too come to this place of torment.'
But Abraham replied, 'They have Moses and the prophets.
Let them listen to them.'
He said, 'Oh no, father Abraham,
but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent.'
Then Abraham said, 'If they will not listen to Moses and the prophets, 
neither will they be persuaded if someone should rise from the dead.'"


Pray With Childlike Praise

Deacon Dan’s homily for Sunday, October 20, 2019

The point of the story Jesus tells us about the widow and the dishonest judge, if you missed it, comes in the first line, “the necessity for them, for us, to pray always without becoming weary.” 


Today’s lesson from Jesus is about prayer; specifically, persistence in our prayer, but prayer.  Now, maybe you find prayer boring or irrelevant in a modern high-tech society, or prayer is something old people do.  But, if you’re thinking, “Oh God, I hope he doesn’t talk too long today; then, you’re already praying!”


For years I thought prayer was pretty much limited to Mass on Sunday and Holy Days, grace before meals and a 20-second prayer at bedtime…that didn’t vary at all night after night.  Really, my prayer seemed not much more than a memorized recital of words that my Mom and Dad…and the Sisters of Mercy taught me as a youngster; the intimacy of a relationship was missing.


As I grew older and faced trials with our children, troubles at work, feelings of uncertainty about things that I saw happening in the world, I would turn to God and ask for His help.  Occasionally, I would see something wonderful while on a backpacking trip, or see the miraculous treasures of life in our children, or feel the grace of love from my wife, and thank and praise God for giving me these beautiful gifts.  But, I can’t say that these times of prayer were more than brief opportunities to encounter our good and gracious Lord; brief because I wouldn’t give Him time, I wasn’t centering myself on Him.  God was always in my life, but on the periphery, the outskirts.  And, God wants more than that for us.  He wants all of us.  He calls us to be in relationship with Him through prayer. 


St. Paul says, “Rejoice always.  Pray without ceasing.  In all circumstances give thanks, for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).


Terri and I have been married for nearly 46 years.  We dated for a year before that.  During our courtship, we couldn’t wait to see each other; We couldn’t wait to talk together and share everything about our lives.  We would leave notes for each other on our cars if the other was at work.  We got to know each other by talking, sharing, and listening…listening.  Throughout our marriage, when things would get a bit dicey, it was the conversation, the sharing, and the listening that was being neglected. 

Our relationships with each other, when built on love, are patterned after our relationship with Jesus.  Converse/pray, share, listen.


Prayer is important for our spiritual life, our spiritual growth, our knowing Jesus.  We know that the Gospels record Jesus praying, but just in the Gospel we heard from today, St. Luke references Jesus praying 18 times!


4:21. After all the people had been baptized and Jesus also was baptized and was praying, heaven was opened.


5:16.  The report about him spread all the more, and great crowds assembled to listen to him and to be cured of their ailments, but he would withdraw to deserted places to pray.


Before he selected the 12 apostles, 6:12 In those days he departed to the mountain to pray, and he spent the night in prayer to God.


9:16.  Then, taking the five loaves and the two fish, and looking up to heaven, he said the blessing over them, broke them and gave them to the disciples to set before the crowd.


6:28. While he was praying his face changed in appearance and his clothing became dazzling white.


11:1. He was praying in a certain place, and when he had finished one of his disciples said to him, ‘Lord teach us to pray just as John taught his disciples.’


22:17. Then he took a cup, gave thanks, and said Take this and share it among yourselves.


Terri recently purchased a little book for our grandson, Zachary, who was baptized last Sunday.  He’s seven years old.  The name of the book is, “Notes from Jesus: What your new best friend wants you to know” by Mikal Keefer.  Here’s a little bit from one page on prayer.


“I want you to know…I don’t care if you pray with your eyes wide open…

Or while you’re riding a bike.

Or while you’re cleaning your room.

Or while you’re eating a sandwich.

Or while you’re watching TV.

Or while you’re in class, in church, or in the bathtub.

Or while you’re pulling on your sneakers, brushing your teeth, doing homework, yawning yourself awake, or drifting off to sleep.

It’s okay with me if you pray while you’re weeding the garden, jumping off the high dive, mowing the grass, getting a haircut, walking the dog, making your bed, riding in the car, hopscotching across the playground, or climbing a tree.

You can pray anywhere, anytime, and I’m happy to talk with you.

The more we’re together, the better I like it!”


Zachary received another book; It’s titled, “If I could ask God anything” by Katheryn Slattery.  So, I looked through it and found a question that just might help us. 


“What should I do when I can’t think of what to pray?” 

It suggests using mnemonic ACTS – like the Acts of the Apostles, St. Luke’s second important writing.  ACTS stands for Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, and Supplication.   I know what you might be thinking…You gave this to your grandson…he’s only seven!  Well, we have high hopes for him. 


ADORATION – Start your prayer time by praising God.  Tell God how wonderful He is.  Tell God how much you appreciate His love and His creation.


CONFESSION – Confess to God all the ways you’ve let Him down.  Tell God you are sorry for your sins.  Ask for His forgiveness.


THANKSGIVING -  Thank God for all the good things in your life.  Once you get started, this may take longer than you think!  No matter what your troubles are, there is always much to be thankful for.


SUPPLICATION – The word supplication means to humbly and earnestly ask.  Tell God what’s going on in your life.  Share your prayer requests.  Don’t hold back.  Tell God everything, from the bottom of your heart.  God loves you, and He wants to hear every detail.


Now, I know I’ve read to you from two children’s books.  But there are lessons from the simplicity of children’s prayer. 


St. Matthew wrote, “When the chief priests and the scribes saw the wondrous things* he was doing, and the children crying out in the temple area, “Hosanna to the Son of David,” they were indignant and said to him, “Do you hear what they are saying?” Jesus said to them, “Yes; and have you never read the text, ‘Out of the mouths of infants and nurslings you have brought forth praise’?”


Today, let us go forth and grow in relationship with God through His beloved Son with childlike prayer.

Deacon Dan’s Homily for Sunday, November 17, 2019

“On the Value of Work in Our Preparation for the Divine Life”

As we come close to the end of the Church liturgical year, we are also coming to the end of the Gospel of Luke. Jesus has made His way from Galilee to Jerusalem, for the purpose of fulfilling His Father will, to suffer, die a criminal’s death on a tree and rise from the dead to redeem humankind from our sin and restore us in righteousness to God. This was the work the Father sent Jesus to accomplish.


Jesus is in Jerusalem, the center of Jewish life at the time of the Feast of Passover, with the Apostles. He is spending the last days in and around the Temple and across the Kidron Valley on the Mount of Olives where He would go in the evenings to pray and spend the night. 


Today’s Gospel passage takes place within the magnificent 2nd temple of Jerusalem. 

The temple rebuilt by Herod the Great 20 years before the birth of our Lord, was completely covered in gold and white marble that shone so brightly in the sun that one would have to avert your eyes and the white marble looked like the temple was covered in snow from a distance. The temple area was 35 acres and the outer courtyard could hold 400,000 people. Unfortunately, the temple, with all of its grandeur was more of a monument to Herod and a marketplace, than it was an offering to God’s glory and mercy.


In this chapter of Luke, Jesus speaks in terms of three periods of time: the near-term, the end-times and a time in between.  Jesus said, "All that you see here--
the days will come when there will not be left a stone upon another stone that will not be thrown down." 


He predicted the temple being completely destroyed, which happened in the year 70 when the Romans took it apart stone by stone salvaging the gold that had melted down between the cracks when fire consumed the temple following a Jewish uprising.


He speaks of the end times, the time of Judgement, when He said, "Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be powerful earthquakes, famines, and plagues from place to place; and awesome sights and mighty signs will come from the sky.”


And, He also spoke of an in-between time, “Jerusalem will be trampled underfoot by the Gentiles until the times of the Gentiles are fulfilled.” This in-between time, an indeterminate time is now, it is our time. It is our time of preparation; preparation to receive the gift of eternal life; a heavenly reward for cooperating with God’s grace on our own, personal path to holiness. 


This past week, I’ve been wrestling with how to tie this Gospel into our own lives.

When I reread the letter from Paul to the Thessalonians about the value of work was reminded of the stones of the laborers who built the temple; those who cut, moved, and stacked the huge stones.  And the story of three masons, you know, bricklayers came to mind. 


It goes like this.  A man came up to three masons on the street of a city working on a huge brick wall and asked each one what he was doing? The first mason said, “I’m just mixing mortar and stacking bricks. He asked the second mason, “What are you doing?” And, the response was I’m building a brick wall. The same question was posed to the third mason. The third bricklayer stood up, looked up at the sky above the wall, and said, “I’m building a cathedral, so people can worship God together.”


The 3rd mason understood the value of his small tasks, his contribution to the building of the great cathedral. The point is, understanding the value of work has a place in our preparation, honest work has a place in our cooperation with others and with the gifts of God, work has a place in building up God’s kingdom, work has a place in our path to holiness.


In Paul’s letter, he is chastising some of those in the Church of Thessalonia to get to work and stop being busybodies.  He says to them, “Brothers and sisters: You know how one must imitate us.  For we did not act in a disorderly way among you, nor did we eat food received free from anyone. On the contrary, in toil and drudgery, night and day we worked, so as not to burden any of you.” 


Paul actually connects work with life itself when he says, “…when we were here with you, we instructed you that if anyone was unwilling to work, neither should that one eat.”


We know what Paul did for a living; he was a tentmaker. Tents were used as a commonplace shelter for anyone who would travel from place to place, or for those who tended flocks, or those who lived outside the cities.  This passage tells us that he toiled, he worked for his keep. 

He was working, as an example to others, in laborious tasks. Tentmaking is hard work, using hides and fabric, cutting, sewing, and stitching them together. He was working alongside those whom he was, at the same time, evangelizing. 


Saint John Paul II wrote in his encyclical, “Through Work”,”---work is a good thing for man…through work man not only transforms nature, adapting it to his own needs, but he also achieves fulfillment as a human being and indeed, in a sense, becomes more a human being.” 


Some of Saint John Paul’s “theology of work” goes all the way back to the Book of Genesis. 

As an example Chapter 2 reads, “God blessed the seventh day and made it holy because on it he rested from all the work he had done in creation.” 


We are created in His image and so it stands that man was given this gift of work, that the Father had exercised, as well. Adam was given work as a “good” before the fall; Again, Genesis states, ”The Lord God then took the man and settled him in the garden of Eden, to cultivate and care for it.”    Are there any gardeners, ranchers or farmers here this morning? You are doing the work of the first job! 


For many work unites us with others; whether its work with our hands or intellectual work.  It is a social activity, a common enterprise; such as a team of software engineers, our Parish Faith Formation team, firefighters on an Engine Company, or the 49ers. We group together to produce something, some product or service that benefits another… done honestly and with integrity, it is for the good of another. 


I’ll share with you that I enjoy cabinetmaking and furniture work. The trade has been in my family for generations. One of the places I feel closest to Jesus is in my woodshop. Especially, when I’m working on a project that will be used on His Altar. It is there that sometimes I can feel my hands join with Jesus’ carpenter’s hands in taking lumber from the trees He has grown to make something that will give Him praise. I get the feeling that He still likes the smell of sawdust and the feel of woodworking tools in His own hands.


We are given work to provide for our families, and for ourselves, certainly.  But, work has a higher purpose, as well. That is, to help form us, to prepare us along our path to holiness by us using our skills and gifts for others.


And so, as we near the end of this Liturgical Year of the Church and stand at the door to the time of preparation in Advent, let us remember how the daily toil of work, when done in concert with the Lord, is pleasing to Him and is in itself an activity that connects us with the Divine for the betterment of community and building up of the Kingdom of God.


Thirty-third Sunday in Ordinary Time
Lectionary: 159

Deacon Dan’s homily for Sunday, December 29, 2019
“Love grown and nurtured in a family is to be patterned after the love God”

Something that all of us, young, old, boys, girls, all of us share in common, is that we all come from a family.  And, God created family so that we would have protection, moms and dads to look after us, to help us grow and learn, and know how to take care of ourselves when we grow up.  The family is where we often first come to experience the balance of mercy and justice, forgiveness and reconciliation, and the joy and pain that comes with loving someone so deeply.


Jesus came from a family, he became incarnate into a human family and cast His love into a world opening the door for a family of believers to become one in Him.  Pope Francis wrote in his Exhortation: Love in the Family, “ The triune God is a communion of love, and the family is its living reflection. Saint John Paul II shed light on this when he said, “Our God in his deepest mystery is not solitude, but a family, for he has within himself fatherhood, sonship and the essence of the family, which is love. That love, in the divine family, is the Holy Spirit”. The family is thus not unrelated to God’s very being” (Francis. Love in the Family).


The family, whether a family as we most often refer to it, Mom, Dad, kids, grandparents, in-laws and relatives, or a family through love and association and a close-knit, common bond, such as can be found in some work settings, (in my past experience, the fire family was a second family) or within close friendships, or our Parish family; in its many forms the family is a creation of God intended for love to prosper, for the sharing and support of our lives, and to learn how to live a life centered on God. 


Today, our God is speaking to us through these texts of Scripture.  He gives us both by word and example how to live our lives in family.  There are three important messages for us to take to heart and to take home.  We must first arrange ourselves, prepare ourselves to listen to God and be obedient to Him.  Second, being part of a family comes with responsibilities.  And third, the kind of love grown and nurtured in a family is to be patterned after the love God gives to us; that is love that wills the good of the other; a self-emptying kind of love. In other words, it is other oriented, rather than self-love; ego-centered…all about me. But, none of this comes easy. 


We live in a world that promotes the self; look at most of politics; that praises the ego, look at so many examples in professional sports; that places the race for honor, power, money and pleasure…in all their various forms, as the ultimate goal.  This has always been the case in this world.  We must first arrange ourselves, prepare ourselves to listen to God and be obedient to Him. 


The story we just heard about the family of Jesus tells us that His family, Joseph and Mary, had struggles and problems, just like we have struggles and problems in our own families. 


There are at least three times when Joseph faced difficult life and family problems and decisions.  First, when he came to know that Mary was with child, and the child wasn’t his.  We heard this story just last Sunday and remember that he received direction from an angel to take Mary into his house.  Second, when he was told by the angel, "Rise, take the child and his mother, flee to Egypt, and stay there until I tell you."  And third, after being a refugee in Egypt for some time, Joseph is again directed by the angel of the Lord to "Rise, take the child and his mother and go to the land of Israel, for those who sought the child's life are dead." 


In each case Joseph received direction from God in a dream.  In each case he listened to the message from God.  Fellow men, if you’re looking for a man’s man, an example to pattern your life after; look to Joseph.  He was a man of courage, a man of conviction, a man of integrity, a man who was right with God and cared for his family ahead of his needs and ahead of what people thought of him.  His heart and his mind were open to hearing God’s call and he trusted in God to say yes and do what God wanted him to do. 

That is the call that each one of us has today; to listen carefully to God, to be open to hearing and trusting in Him.  He may want to tell us something in a dream like Joseph, or speak to us through our spouse, or a trusted friend, teachers, or through our moms and dads. 


But, we have to be open to listening and then trust in God, to say yes to Him and do what he is asking.  And, so, yea, how do we arrange ourselves to listen to God? 

Well, how do you listen to your husband or wife, or girlfriend, or boyfriend…how do you really listen to your best friend? 

After, 45 years and 330 days of marriage, I am learning to stop whatever else I’m doing, I look at Terri, close my mouth, try not to think about how I’m going to fix her problem or situation…I just listen.    I’m still practicing, sometimes I succeed.  Then, I consider responding. 


With other people we call this communication; with God we know this as a part of our prayer.  Remember the prayer acronym from a couple of months ago: ACTS – Adoration, Confess, Thanks, and Supplication? 


Second, being part of a family comes with responsibilities.  We heard in our first reading the responsibilities we have toward our parents.  This is the fourth Commandment: Honor thy father and mother.  Being true to this Commandment has its promised rewards: it makes up for our own sins, our prayers will be heard, we will have a long life, we will be gladdened by children.  As our parents age, it is especially important to do what we can to help them and be patient with them. 


I’ve already sent a copy of this homily to our kids!


Every member of the family has responsibilities; wives – help your husbands be holy men.  Men –  love our wives, as we love our own selves, and be gentle and encourage our children.  And, children, obey your parents to please the Lord.


And third, the kind of love grown and nurtured in a family is to be patterned after the love God gives to us; that is love that wills the good of the other; a self-emptying kind of love. 



Practically speaking, Paul gives us the recipe for love in a family at home, a family at work or the family in this Catholic Parish.  That is, to put on love, wear it, let it cover you and be seen and felt by others in our behavior toward one another through heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another. 


This is the pattern of our lives toward one another.  It is the pattern modeled for us by our Lord, Jesus.  We are the images and the likeness of God. Through the graces of our Baptism, through the graces of receiving the Holy Eucharist, through our living our own path to holiness, we become the living witnesses of the fullness of His love; a self-emptying, love that wills the good of another for the other. 


On this 5th day in the Octave of Christmas we continue to celebrate the Gift.  As John wrote, “For God so oved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him might not perish, but might have eternal life.”


Merry Christmas!

The Holy Family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph
Lectionary: 17